Why is it that so often when we get annoyed with someone, we stew on it until they are driving us crazy, only we later find out that they had no idea that we were even annoyed, let alone that it was THEM annoying us? I don’t think I am the only girl to have found herself in this situation. Admit it. The thing is, if it’s serious enough of an issue that it is bothering us that much, why don’t we just bring it up with the person with whom we are being annoyed? It would be so much easier and less stressful to do that! Most likely, they had no idea that they were driving you crazy, and if they were, you can work through that too.
And, if it’s not a big enough of deal to bring it up, just let it go. Okay, don’t judge me, but quoting Paul on the show Gator Boys on the Discovery Channel, “Life’s too short to fight.” (I know, I am probably one of only a few that have ever watched that show, and the ONLY one to quote it, but I watch it because my husband loves watching it lately.) What he said was such a simple phrase, but it struck me as being so true. Why do I waste my time stewing like that when I could just say it, get it figured out, and be over it, and spend the rest of the time being in a good mood?
One of the reasons is probably because we are naturally selfish beings and don’t want to give up our pride in that moment…or day…or week, or however long we hold that grudge for. But, surprise! The only thing we, quite possibly, are accomplishing by doing that is driving ourselves crazy and driving a wedge in the middle of that relationship for no good reason. Let’s change this. Let’s stop wasting our time brooding, deal with the situation, and continue living.